The Age of Anxiety
People with anxiety i'm sure are some of the smartest people around. Imagine remembering to be anxious or scared of other people everyday and still being able to live life. Imagine having more concern for what other people are thinking and feeling than your own. Imagine remembering each day that you had to be scared or anxious yet you still had the ability equal or maybe even greater than those around you. You can walk, talk, breathe, eat, sleep and function in the way that we were intended as humans and then on top of that remember to be something that you are not or to act in a way that is not natural to who you really are. Most people cant even remember were they left their keys!
I guess it’s totally hiding youre own beliefs and subscribing to that of others around you for fear of having to stand up for your own.
Anxiety grows, once you feel it and you feel it again and everytime in these situations you crash and the mind starts to begin a pattern. The pattern starts by slowly developing a way in which inputs and thoughts in the mind are dealt with. And after time this almost becomes automatic to some extent, well not quite automatic as is still needs to be remembered to be done, and it can be a really quite complex set of routines to follow but a definte path or pattern is set in the mind. Routines to be scared in situations or having the thought of a situation bring on a chain of chemical reactions in the body like hot flushes, sweaty palms, tension around neck and throat area, total loss of clear thought, confusion, stress etc.
Retreating generally becomes the answer ie not putting your hand up, not enrolling, avoiding classes or meetings, not turning up to social engagements and to others appearing to be arrogant or rude, distant and aloof.
Alcohol and drugs will generally become part of picture, as here is a door that is always open.
After a while all this becomes normal and the pattern is set.
This can be quite a hard pattern to break depending how long it’s been in play. Breaking it concerns the regaining of confidence, the need of will power, self belief, creation of a better self perception and through all of this the need for support and genuine love. It is important to look for the reasons that initially trigured this pattern ,which can be hard, as they may be many and to get to the very first one is difficult but absolutley nessecary. People are not born this way they are actually unintentionally formed this way. The childhood memories, generally this is where it starts, can be anything from being left alone in a busy place (left to feel scared and alone, unwanted, unloved) or being abused (undeserved, unloved, unworthy). It’s important to recall these memories and work through the event/s to find closure as at the moment they are the formers of this pattern and are still active memories with feelings attatched.
All this so far sounds easy but not really, first I guess the person with the anxiety has to accept that they have a problem and that there's a better kind of normal to be had and that the solution is one that is challenging and requires dealing with pain and working through it. Mental discipline is required.
As anxiety did once grow so too can confidence required to beat it and as the mind was once patterned/programed it can be repatterned/reprogrammed. The minds filters/routines need to be developed or rebuilt.
In our mind we receive information from various different senses (what we see, hear, feel, smell and taste) this information is then filtered by various different methods (meta programs as in our general approach, values, beliefs, memories and decisions, all these being linked to each other) then the thought or picture that is left is the one we see as reality (the territory we see is not the territory itself but our representation of the territory) and the one that we act on. If these filters are out of balance then then confusion reins and we can loose ability to act or be our true selves.
Wanting to let go and believe can be the hardest part.
Believe, believe, believe.
Start with something small and let it grow.
I guess it’s totally hiding youre own beliefs and subscribing to that of others around you for fear of having to stand up for your own.
Anxiety grows, once you feel it and you feel it again and everytime in these situations you crash and the mind starts to begin a pattern. The pattern starts by slowly developing a way in which inputs and thoughts in the mind are dealt with. And after time this almost becomes automatic to some extent, well not quite automatic as is still needs to be remembered to be done, and it can be a really quite complex set of routines to follow but a definte path or pattern is set in the mind. Routines to be scared in situations or having the thought of a situation bring on a chain of chemical reactions in the body like hot flushes, sweaty palms, tension around neck and throat area, total loss of clear thought, confusion, stress etc.
Retreating generally becomes the answer ie not putting your hand up, not enrolling, avoiding classes or meetings, not turning up to social engagements and to others appearing to be arrogant or rude, distant and aloof.
Alcohol and drugs will generally become part of picture, as here is a door that is always open.
After a while all this becomes normal and the pattern is set.
This can be quite a hard pattern to break depending how long it’s been in play. Breaking it concerns the regaining of confidence, the need of will power, self belief, creation of a better self perception and through all of this the need for support and genuine love. It is important to look for the reasons that initially trigured this pattern ,which can be hard, as they may be many and to get to the very first one is difficult but absolutley nessecary. People are not born this way they are actually unintentionally formed this way. The childhood memories, generally this is where it starts, can be anything from being left alone in a busy place (left to feel scared and alone, unwanted, unloved) or being abused (undeserved, unloved, unworthy). It’s important to recall these memories and work through the event/s to find closure as at the moment they are the formers of this pattern and are still active memories with feelings attatched.
All this so far sounds easy but not really, first I guess the person with the anxiety has to accept that they have a problem and that there's a better kind of normal to be had and that the solution is one that is challenging and requires dealing with pain and working through it. Mental discipline is required.
As anxiety did once grow so too can confidence required to beat it and as the mind was once patterned/programed it can be repatterned/reprogrammed. The minds filters/routines need to be developed or rebuilt.
In our mind we receive information from various different senses (what we see, hear, feel, smell and taste) this information is then filtered by various different methods (meta programs as in our general approach, values, beliefs, memories and decisions, all these being linked to each other) then the thought or picture that is left is the one we see as reality (the territory we see is not the territory itself but our representation of the territory) and the one that we act on. If these filters are out of balance then then confusion reins and we can loose ability to act or be our true selves.
Wanting to let go and believe can be the hardest part.
Believe, believe, believe.
Start with something small and let it grow.
posted by Radisson at 11:46 PM
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